I came home one day to tell my at the time husband about my little encounter.
I had mentioned that I thought I saw a black widow..
before I could finish my sentence and story , my now ex husband got in my face about how I didn’t even know what one looked like , then proceeded to ask me very aggressively if I even knew random facts about the spider. 
Trying to finish my story after multiple attempts at this point felt like a chore, he was already yelling and worked up about his knowledge and my lack on black widows.
The story was … “I thought I had seen a black widow on my walk but as soon as I saw the under belly I realized it wasn’t. It was a good jump scare… because I walked right into a pole”.. I live in Colorado and go hiking often so I’ve seen many since moving here 
The widow argument ended with me Turning around and packing my things and leaving. I realized, if I can’t even have a normal conversation about a , How will I be able to live with this man? We were about to move in to our first place together. This was 2 days before I was supposed to add myself to the lease.
I filed for divorce , and had this cutie tattooed right after to remind me.
Since I don’t know what one looks like , she is red , thus the inverted colors . 
Stay “dull” protect your peace and love your space 
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